I always felt being serious is a good virtue and those who does not follow this rule in a relationship is careless and rude. Now looking back at some of my personal love affairs and all those moments i spend struggling, aching, hurting, because I was too serious, too hopeful. Nothing I do differently at the time could change the path of those ill fated relationships, if I could leap back in time, I think I will see those moments in a different light. Instead of going down the path of feeling used or abandoned by a lover, an encouter should be an opportunity for romance, advanture and real connection. After all, what all of us want is someone to see me, fascinated by who I am, follow me, even if for just a brief moment. Time is transient, I suddently miss the sleepy smile of that boy who answered his door, the door I willingly knocked on. Caleb says "you need to be less serious" I listened this time, without rage. I need to be less serious. Seriously Jane